Melbourne: Lessons in love
It has been a year since I left Sydney to begin a new chapter in Melbourne.
In a year, I have learnt so much about myself and the world around me.
However, one lesson that stood out the most is about love.
Love is an incredibly powerful emotion and should be experienced on all levels.
Since moving here, I’ve fallen in love with myself and it is incredible.
I’ve become comfortable in my own skin and I haven’t felt that way before. It is so important to be at ease with yourself and to feel comfortable in your own skin. I’m a lot happier – a lot more than I was this time last year.
My mental health is much better than it was when I was living in Sydney. I used to get anxiety whenever I attended an event – and it actually got to the point where I became a hermit and chose to hang out in a small group setting or one-on-one. It wasn’t healthy and I hated that.
I attended a friend’s farewell a month after I moved here, and I was quite anxious. But alas, 5 minutes after arriving at the party, Anxiety bidded farewell to me and went on its merry way. I haven’t felt anxious in a year, and because of that, I am now comfortable no matter what situation it is – be it big or small.
I’ve embraced myself for who I am. I have realised my potential. I’ve allowed myself to flourish and because of this, opportunities have come my way. Suffice to say, I have broken through that brick wall that was standing in front of me prior to moving here.
I am so in love with myself, and I am going to continue loving myself.
I have fallen in love with Melbourne. I have found home.
Before moving here, I never thought it was possible to fall in love with a city. But it IS possible.
Melbourne is constantly full of surprises. People here are so warm and welcoming, no matter how cold or hot the weather is. It’s full of delicious smells and breathtakingly beautiful sights, be it in Northcote, Footscray, Bayswater or Prahan.
Funnily enough, I remember telling someone during M2005 Deaflympics that I would never move here. 10 years later, I’m a full-fledged Melbourne resident! Essentially, I’ve eaten my words 😉 Moral of this is: never say never.
I’ve become a massive foodie and coffee addict since moving here, and it’s a complete surprise I haven’t piled on 100kgs…! Maybe it’s because I play netball once a week on Thursday nights with an amazing group of ladies.
It’s hard to be bored in Melbourne, and I love it. There’s always something happening every weekend. If I find myself without any plans one weekend, I know I would be happy staying home and binge watching Criminal Minds on Netflix. No matter what I do, I am happy as long as I am in Melbourne.
I’ve fallen in love with my family and friends.
Since moving here, I have developed a better appreciation for my family and friends. These people are so incredibly important to me, and I am so glad to have them in my life. They may be all over the world, but they mean so much to me – a lot more than they will ever know.
I’ve made new friends since moving here, and they have become a huge part of my life. I cannot imagine my life with those incredible people, no matter how long I have known them.
I’ve had to let some people go since moving here. There are some people who once meant so much to me, but they do not nowadays because we have drifted apart. We’ve all changed over the last decade. It’s never a good idea to hold onto people for so long, especially to the point when they become smudgy ink and things become blurred between you two.
However, it is important to stick with those who have stuck with you through thick and thin. Those who you know you can trust, no matter what happens. Friendships were re-kindled after a few years of absence thus becoming closer than before. Friends you never knew you would have.
I’ve fallen in love.
At some point over the last 12 months, I found myself on the floor. Completely in love.
It unexpectedly hit me. That moment I realised, I felt like I had been hit by a truck.
I felt like I was swimming in a sea of emotions. I was barely keeping myself afloat because I did not know how to deal with it.
It was crazy. I lost my appetite and couldn’t eat properly for about a week or so. I couldn’t sleep.
At the same time, I wanted to yell from the rooftops but I couldn’t.
The last time I fell in love, I kept it to myself and it did my head in. This time, I found the courage to tell my friends so I could vent and get advice I needed. I’ve gotten all that, and I am incredibly grateful.
I never thought it was possible to love someone so much. Overwhelming, it was. It actually blew my mind.
The most important lesson about falling in love is letting go. I’ve listened to my gut instincts and I’ve decided to let that person go. Essentially, I’m not ready for that person but I do know that I am ready to let myself be loved.
All in all, love is an important aspect of our lives and we learn to love in so many different ways. There’s many other types of love I am yet to experience and I am looking forward to that as I continue living my life.
Melbourne, thank you for teaching me so much about life and most importantly, love. I look to learning more from you.
To everyone in my life who has been there for me, I love you.